Don’t ‘Go Compare’
- we compare our inner thoughts and doubts to the the glossy outside mask that other people often show us
- we compare our worldly goods to those of the richest in our society but rarely to the poorest
- we compare our draft writing to the years of work and polished editing that goes into the books we read
- we compare our first laboured mile of running to the Olympic runners as they sprint round the track
- we compare our prototypes to others peoples finished products, refined through hundreds of failures
- we compare our process to other peoples end product
These poor comparisons discourage us when we most need to be encouraged. They set unrealistic expectations that are sure to be disappointed. They lay the seeds of depression and imposter syndrome.
We also fail to do some pretty interesting comparisons, for example we don’t compare our lives with the lives of kings and queens only a few decades ago, or the poorest of our society today with the richest 200 years ago! We can choose the comparisons we make to increase our level of satisfaction with life, just look at Buddhist Monks for inspiration.
If we banish one habit from our lives it needs to be comparing ourselves unfavourably to others. We need to learn to be at peace with ourselves, more grateful for what we have, content.
Today’s photo is of the lovely Blackpool promenade. Blackpool is a town with an image problem compared to some other premier English seaside towns. When faced with improving things the regeneration consultants chose not to try and change Blackpool so much as to celebrate it. They renovated the prom to show off the wonderful beach to best effect. They invested in amazing town centre light shows to solidify the already great reputation of the illuminations. Their approach was to improve Blackpool as a family friendly destination whilst always staying true to Blackpool’s fun ,seaside town, roots.